FEELING.

I bet you know that your thoughts become things, but what doesn’t an elephant appear when you think about an elephant?

Ok, sure – you could say there is a gestation period like all things in the world – including manifestation – so things do magically appear. If this was your answer – kudos to being a great student.

But there is another reason why some of the things you manifest don’t reveal themselves: you think it – but you don’t FEEL it.

Whatever you are looking to get for your future self, you have to be able to FEEL how that would feel NOW. Not later. Not when you get it. NOW.

You can see this in happiness in most people.

I will be happen when I get that promotion.

I will be happy when I find that perfect person.

I will be happy when I make $100,000 a year.

The main issue in that way of thinking is that those goals will never come to you, because you are putting your feeling in that future state. If you don’t know how to feel those feelings NOW, how do you expect to feel those feelings then?

And there is where most people fail with the law of attraction.

If you really want to succeed in your manifestations, you need to start FEELING the feelings that you would have when you receive it, but feel them now.

The Feeling Is The Secret

Getting the feeling down is probably the hardest part about manifestation because let’s face it: If you don’t know what it feels like to make 100k, how can you possibly know what it feels like to make 100k?

Or lose 50 lbs.

Or get that relationship of your dreams.

Or get that car of your dreams.

They do describe this in The Secret. There is a scene in the movie, where they are telling you to sit in your chair, and imagine that you are behind the wheel of your brand new sports car – and they have this whole scene about it. That is the feeling. Sure – you can imagine it, dream it, visualize it – but if you don’t have the FEELINGS behind it, you just won’t get there.

Because you have never been there, you truly don’t know what it feels like. And there lies the biggest problem. If you can’t feel it – you can’t manifest it.

So let’s pose the question: How do you get the feeling?

Simple – you get the feeling.

Yes – that is over simplistic but that truly is how you do it. In order to generate the feelings of getting what you want, you ave to start generating the feelings of what you want. Not when you get it – now.

I was 25 years young when I came across The Secret. Fresh out of college (yes – it took me awhile), working dead end job making maybe 30k a year. I wanted more – I knew I wanted more. I came from a poor upbringing and had a very poor money mindset. I wanted out of it – and knew that I could. But no matter what I did I could not get it. I did the visualizations, affirmations, meditations, and whatever other -ations I could throw at it. Nothing was changing. Until I changed.

I read this story about playing games with yourself in order to generate the feelings of what you are looking to do. In this case – financial abundance. So I decided it couldn’t hurt – it will only work, right? So I started putting myself in situations surround wealth.

• I subscribed to the Robb Report magazine.
• I took daily walks in the most affluent neighborhoods in San Diego (Rancho Santa Fe, Del Mar, Encinitas, etc).
• I would try on pants at a store, and put $20 in the pocket and put them back on the rack.
• I test drove a BMW 5 series.
• I took my car to the valet.
• I dropped $200 on a dinner with my girlfriend (now wife).

Every single one of these things scared the living sh*t out of me. I didn’t belong in those neighborhoods. I didn’t have extra money to just drop in pockets for someone else. I drove a 2000 Pontiac sunfire – who the f*ck valet thats? That $200 dinner – on a credit card because I didn’t have enough in the bank – hell the card only had a $500 limit!

Crazy? Yes – yes it was. Did I feel the feelings of abundance the first time? Absolutely not. In fact – it triggered more stress and feelings of lack that abundance.

But I kept at it. Because I believed this will work. And do you know what started happening?

• The price tag of those items in the Robb Report started to become normal. 100k for a watch? Well – it is a nice watch.
• I started to normalize seeing Porches and Mercedes and BMW and Range Rovers in those fancy neighborhoods. It was no longer ‘look at that fancy car’ but simply – look at that car.
• Parking in the valet became normal – I was actually pissed when a restaurant or hotel did NOT have valet. What – you want me to self park like a peasant?
• Date nights now consist of $200 meals easily, and freely.

2 years later, I pulled my first 100k year –  nearly 4 years to the day of earning that 30k a year.  But more important than the earning is building my abundance mindset. Every time I drop $200 on a dinner date with my wife, I give a little smile because it isn’t money being spent, it is good times and memories being made, well worth the money for dinner.

That story may feel like a boastful brag, but the key takeaway point is to generate the feelings. Yes – it will feel uncomfortable walking through ritzy neighborhoods when you are used to the slums. Yes – it will feel weird shopping for the new clothes you will wear when you lose that 50 lbs. Yes – it will feel odd testing driving that 911 GT3 Porsche.

But unless you know what it feels like in those moments – you will never know what it feels like in those moments. You will never be able to normalize a fancy neighborhood. You will never be able to see yourself 50 pounds lighter. You will never know what 346 ft lbs of torque really feels like off the line.

That is why you need to do whatever you can to start feeling the feelings of your end result. Feel FROM your goals, not when you get there.

If you can master the feeling of what you want – there literally is nothing stopping you from the life of your dreams.

So feel the feelings – and get the life that you want!

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This is a big piece of the puzzle of life. So many people don’t know who they want to me, what they want to do or where they want to go. Sure – you may have dreams and aspirations – but for what? For who? You? Or the world around you that is dictating this is how you are supposed to live?

A higher vision of your life is your dreams. All of them. Every single one. It’s that perfect world with no friction, no blockers, and no limits. It’s everything you want to be, have, and do. It’s your future self – the person you know you were meant to be. The higher vision of your life.

A Higher Vision of Your Life

Whenever I talk about the law of attraction or helping people achieve all of their dreams, or just having conversations on life, I always tell people that the first thing you need to do is create that higher vision of your life. It’s your roadmap. You can’t know where you want to go if you don’t have a map. I don’t care how good at directions you think you are, or how solid your so-called life plan is – if you don’t have the most detailed plan of the highest version of your self and your life, you will never get anywhere close to where you want to be.

When you start thinking about the highest version of yourself, you naturally start heading in that direction. You naturally start becoming the person you know you can be. You gravitate toward the things that you need in your life. You start believing that you are that version of yourself, and like magic – you just become it.

And here is the most beautiful thing about that process: Once you become the higher version of your life, guess what you get to do again? That is right – go higher.

The sky is the limit here – literally. You can start pushing yourself further and further until you no longer exist in this world. There is no stopping, no quitting, no settling. Just the beautiful possibility of the infinite.

So the question is: Do you have the higher version of your life?

And not just in your head. You will forget it. It has to be written down. On paper. With a pen. I love my online journals (Evernote for the win!), but if you really want to get something to stick, write down the higher vision of your life in a notebook by hand. There is something about the words behind drawn out on the notebook that sticks them deep in your subconscious.

And once written, it needs to be read. Multiple times a day. Get it so ingrained in you that it becomes your life. You are obsessed with it. You read it and get lost in it like your favorite novel. You get attached emotionally. You are there – in that life in those pages – experiences and feeling everything that you have written, over and over again till it becomes second nature.

Then you write it again. And read it again. Then write it again. And read it again. You continue to tweak and adjust your story, then get lost in the pages of your future life.

Because that is how this all works. You don’t magically wake up one morning with all your dreams sitting in your front lawn. You get them because you already know what they feel like. You have been there in your story so often that there is no doubt in your mind, body, and soul that you are there – in your future vision. You know the scenes, you know the emotions, you know the feelings – and you are just there experiencing it again.

Yes – this takes work. But how bad do you want your dreams? How bad do you want that higher vision of yourself to come true in your life? How bad do you want that money? How bad do you want that success? How bad do you want that life of freedom? It’s all there. You just have to be able to step into the realm of possibility, feel it – believe it – and then experience it.

But then again – because it is everything you want – it shouldn’t feel like work. It should feel like you are the author and creator of one of the greatest stories around. Because you are! You get to determine how far you go in life. You get to determine how much you want to feel and experience. You get to determine what you want in life. And you get to determine the work ethic you put in to get it.

So go out and write. Be that author of your future story, and get so excited about writing that story that you cannot wait to go read it and get in that moment. Get in that moment again and again and again. Over and over. Keep refining your story, keep re-defining yourself. Keep dreaming, keep reaching, and one day everything will come true. You will experience a level of satisfaction, contentment, and happiness that you never thought was possible because you realize that you are the creator – you are making your life – you are the author that gets to pen how everything turns out. And you are the beautiful soul that gets to enjoy the ending as well.

So enjoy the ending.

And go write that vision of your higher self. Watch your life transform.

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And it’s so easy to do today. We are stuck inside glued to social media, getting constant bombardments on different updates within the world. But every single thing that you take in effects your vibes in your life.

Perfect vibrations are frictionless. It’s true surrender. It is a peace of mind – a relaxation – moment to moment living knowing that everything is happening in the right moments in your life. It’s constant happiness and a smile on your face. It’s all the good things you love in life – wrapped into one. That moment – that spot where everything in the world is perfect, is where I want to be all the time. It’s just pure bliss – nothing better.

It’s hard to get to this spot. There is mental clarity involved, knowing what you want out of life. There is clearing the space for the mind in order to fully observe everything going on around you. And there is patience – the surrender of knowing all in the time of the universe will things come my way.

And it takes work to get to that moment. And even if you are in that moment – all it takes is one little thing to through you off your vibrations.

The information you take in on a daily basis is affecting your mindset. Literally – the diet of what you consume (and we aren’t talking food here) literally can make or break you to get to where you want to go.

If you have a higher vision of your self, and you are wondering why you aren’t seeing it happen in your life – look around you. What in your life is causing you pain? What in your life is making you sad or depressed? What are you reading that makes you feel bad or inadequate? What goes on at the work that causes you to come home mad and upset? What social media site causes your anxiety to spike with F.O.M.O.?

All these things affect your vibrations. And when your vibrations are down, it’s like a kink in the hose of the abundance you are looking for.

The negativity is all around you. It is hard to escape it all the time. Actually – it’s nearly impossible to escape it any of the time. But what you can do is make a conscious decision to turn off the news. Shut down Facebook. Cure what is causing the pain. Change jobs. Do whatever you have to do to remove the negative things from your life. That clears the space for positivity, which is a way better emotion anyways. That positivity leads to higher vibrations, which leads to the abundance in life you are looking for.

Easier said than done? Like everything else – yes. But this is a spiritual practice – you are meant to keep working on it until you perfect it. And then when you think you have perfected it – you practice more.

The first step here is to watch your emotions. When the news comes on about the latest COVID19 deaths, how does that make you feel? Not good? Swap out that information. Literally turn off the TV or the internet and go grab a motivation book, or read another blog post from here. That is how you start changing your mind – are you start changing your mind. Make the decision that you will no longer put up with what doesn’t serve you. You are ready – dedicated – and willing to surrender.

So what the information you are intaking, raise your vibrations, and watch your life soar!

To your abundance,

Zach

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And it is very easy to get stuck down a rabbit hole with these posts. You see something that mild interested you – a few minutes later you are watching some kid bite his brothers finger.

Each loss of focus on one of these rabbit holes takes you out of your own mind, your own head, your own goals, and your own focus.

Staying in your own moment is how you get ahead – by focusing all your energy, focus, and attention on getting yourself ahead in the world. When your attention dwindles and goes someplace else – that is when you start dropping energy, focus, and ultimately – vibrations to get to where you want to go.

And maybe you are OK with that. Maybe you don’t have goals, or dreams, or a perfect life that you want to live. That is fine – to each their own.

Or maybe you are frustrated with your current state – wondering why you work so hard, drive your life forward, and can’t really show much for it. You are tired of being overweight. You are tired of not having enough wealth. You are tired of the same old shit in your life day in and day out.

If you are the latter – I urge you to focus on yourself. Focus on your own focus.

Focus on Focus

Life is such a wondrous adventure – if you treat it in the right way. Focusing on pig-headed discipline on your own life – your own goals – your own way of living is a powerful way to get your mind on the path to where you want to go. But as soon as we get sucked up into OPP (Other People’s Problems), we get distracted where we want to go. And every second distracted is a second off of your own life.

Yes – we should care about our fellow humans – that isn’t what I am saying here. If someone needs help, or someone to talk to, or someone to listen – be there. 100% of the time. The issue is when you scroll through Instagram – how many people do you give your attention to that really shouldn’t have it?

• Talking politics
• Complaining about life
• Yet another picture of a baby just sitting there
• Sharing another passive-aggressive article about the world in its current state

None of these serve you. None of these take YOU closer to where YOU want to go. They actually take you further from it. They send you into a state of negativity, where you focus on things that push you farther and farther away from your own true self. And when we talk about getting your vibrations as high as possible – that is living the life of your own true self – not the bull that goes on in the media (social or otherwise).

I know that is hard to do. We all are guilty of it. We all just need that little hit – that snip of something to cure our itch for media. That little glimpse of what others are going through to validate our own life through someone else. That’s all we want.

Or do we?

Your Life Vision

One of my main principles is to know what you want – go get what you want. As simple as it sounds, that truly is the basis for living the best life.

Know what you want – go get what you want.

Knowing what you want is what gets people. By focusing so much on what others are doing with their life, and trying to find validation for our own life through them, we get sucked down into the spiral of thinking what we want is what they have.

And that very well could be true. If you see something that someone else has and you say to yourself:

“that is nice – I’d like to have that someday”

Guess what – you can! But if you say to yourself:

“That is nice – how come he can afford that and I can’t? I make more money than him. Look at him putting his own ego ahead of his family and spending money on that thing instead of taking his family on a vacation or something. I want to do that – why can’t I do that? What am I doing wrong that he is doing right? I am better than him”.

This is the rabbit hole we need to get out of. And knowing your own life vision can help you do that.

Knowing what you want is actually a difficult task. It is what YOU want. How YOU want to live. How YOU want to be. Not because of the vision of someone else – but the vision of YOU. And that is why I have most people who are struggling with their life write a life vision. What is the highest version of yourself? In a perfect world – where politics, socioeconomic status, money, health, nothing really matters or is restrictive – who are you? What are you doing? How are you living?

Once you get this down – you can start on the path of living the best life. This puts your own personal vibrations – your own energy – on your own focus of your own life to live YOUR life to the best.

And that is what we are after aren’t we? To live a full life? I think so…

So how do we focus on ourselves? How do we start focusing on our own life vision and no one else? I am glad you asked.

5 Ways To Focus on Focus

1. If you haven’t already, write your life vision. Write down your highest version of yourself as you sit today. In a world where there is no friction, who are you? What are you doing? How are you living?
2. Restrict social media. I think too many people say to stop social media altogether, but that is like telling an alcoholic just to stop drinking altogether. When you are so conditioned to do something and you try to quit cold turkey – it isn’t good. So restrict it. Limit it. Don’t check it first thing in the morning. Make a habit of checking only AFTER a certain time in the morning. And no checking after 8p (that is when the complainers come out anyway). And create a “let it be” attitude. When you do check it – if you find yourself getting worked up over a post, tell yourself “Let it be. That doesn’t help me” and move on.
3. Meditate. My answer to everything is to meditate. Meditation slows your mind and lets you be in control of your thoughts. Read your life vision, and meditate for 10 – 20 minutes. Let your mind marinate on the idea of living your best vision.
4. Slow down. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Your perfect life won’t be here overnight. Part of the practice is the journey. Stop rushing through life just to get to the end (you die anyways). Slow down, enjoy moments in your life.
5. Surrender. Know this is working. Know that no matter what others are doing, it is for them. You are focused on your life and you are letting whatever higher power you believe in move you through life towards your best left. Let people do other people. You do you – and you do you the best you you can do.

Once you get the hang of focusing on yourself, your own dreams, your own life, it becomes liberating. You truly stop caring what the worlds think, and that is an empowering feeling to know you are in control of your own life, your own destiny, and you can have anything and everything that you want in life. But you have to focus on focus first.

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In the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu talks about the time for everything:

As in the nature of things,
there is a time for being ahead
and a time for being behind;
a time for ease
and a time for strain;
a time to be hard
and a time to be soft;
a time to grow in strength
and a time to decay.

In the Bible, Ecclesiastes 3 says there is a time for everything:

There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.

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That doesn’t mean you have to stay where you are at, or even be satisfied where you are at – quite the opposite actually. You should want to push yourself forward, obtain all you can, and live the life that you know you were meant to live.

But you have you know where you have come from – you have to appreciate where you are at.

Appreciate Where You Are At

You have come through so much, whether you know it or not. Life has put you here, on this path you on in, on this course of life. You need to be grateful for that. You are exactly where you are suppose to be.

The gratefulness of this moment, of this life you are in, of all the things that are happening in your life right now, shows the universe that you are open for the future – that you know life is happening for you around you, not to you. You can relax your shoulders, open your heart, and enjoy this moment.

Because all you have – is this moment. This breathe, this heart beat, this life. You aren’t in the future – it hasn’t happened yet. You aren’t in the past, it is over. You have the now. You have right here. You have this moment. Be grateful for this moment. Be grateful where you are at.

So why is this important? Why is it important to be grateful and appreciate where you are at?

Because that is where you are.

It does NOT mean that is where you will stay. In fact – you are not supposed to! You need to grow, and move forward, and dream, and hustle, and keep pushing yourself to live the life that you know you are capable and powerful enough to live!

But being grateful here – now – shows the universe that you get it. You need to be here, before you can be there. If you just focus on the there, you forget about the here. The here gets you to there, so showing the universe that you appreciate here, allows more of the there to come in.

In other words, you cannot go where you want, without first passing through this moment. If you want to be excited and happy that you are working toward goals in your life – working toward your dreams and aspirations – you must understand that this moment is the path to get there, as well as all the other moments of your past. Everything you have been though – EVERYTHING YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH – puts you on the path to where you want to go. You must be grateful and appreciate this moment now – where you are at – in order to continue to appreciate the journey to get where you want to go.

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The only way it is going to fit, is if you force it.

And if you force it, it probably will get bend, mis-aligned, or even broke.

And even if you are able to force it, it isn’t going to work like it should, because it doesn’t fit properly.

Welcome to how the universe works.

Often in life, we try to force what we want into our lives. And sometimes – the universe kind of goes along with it, and gives us what we need, but not in the capacity we think it is suppose to be at.

But most of the time, we try to force our square peg of what we want into the circle of life and get frustrated to no end when it doesn’t work. When we still don’t have the money, when we didn’t get the job, when our relationship is still shit. Most of the time, this creates negativity in our life, which leads to the notification to the universe that we want more negativity, and when it rains it pours, so more negativity is exactly what you will get.

Let Go, and Let Love

The universe has a divine plan for you. There is something cooking for you, toward the goals you are seeking, stronger than any other power there is. But it can’t be forced. The universe will let it happen, you just have to let it happen.

What you are seeking, is seeking you. Rumi

What you desire, what you are seeking, what you want out of life is out there, and it is coming for you. Today? Maybe – maybe not. Next week? Maybe – maybe not. Next year? Maybe – maybe not. But it is coming.

The universe has it’s time and place. In order to achieve all that you desire, you need to let go of any resistance of force, and just let the universe do it’s thing in your life and all will be manifested.

Now – here is the big caveat in here: You can’t just sit in your chair at your house and have everything manifest itself without doing the work.

The work is what gets you there. The work gets results. The work helps the universe align the world to provide the things needed to provide. The work allows for the inspired inspiration – those moments that you never thought about, divine inspiration moving you toward where you need to go. That is what the work does.

But you can’t force the work. Be open to possibilities, keep going down the path you are going, and trust the universe to open doors. If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t the universe. Don’t be closed off, be open and honest about the opportunities that present themselves in your life.

It is a tough game – as there maybe something that feels like the universe is pointing you in that direction, but actually is you trying to force it. If it feels forced, it isn’t the divine. It is you and your ego trying to get what you want. Take a step back, take a deep breathe, open your heart and check your gut. It will tell you – you will know.

This is one of the most difficult concepts to grasp when talking about manifesting. But it is the truth – you have to know what you want, go get what you want, but let the universe direct you in the right way – don’t force what you want.

You will get there. It is a practice. It is a journey. It is life. And it is beautiful.

I am always here to help – drop me a line at Zach(at)highervibeslife.com and I can do what I can do guide you in the right direction.

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But I learned that you need to let life happen. There are some things out of your control, and as much as you want to try to have your life go in a certain direction, life may just bitch slap you back a few steps. But it is all part of the plan. Your plan, in the universe plan.

When this happens, it is extremely tough to accept it, especially for a guy like myself who is so driven for results it hurts sometimes. But life showed me it was in ultimate control. And sometimes you need to let life happen.

The story I am about to share is extremely personal. I have thought long and hard about writing this, but ultimately, I hope that my pain can spark someone’s change. Hence – I write.

Life Hits Hard

In August of 2013, 4 days before my 29th birthday, I arrived home from work, like any other normal day. My wife and I sat down to enjoy our dinner like we always do. Starving and exhausted from the day, I was looking forward to enjoying the meal. Right before I was about to take a bite, my wife jumped up and said “ill be right back” and ran downstairs. I set my fork by down, a little pissed off honestly, and waited her to return. She sat down and told me my birthday present came early and set a bag on the table. Still starving, I asked if I can open if after dinner, she said OK a little dejected and sat back down, only to pop right back up and say “No open it now”. Setting my fork down, now even a little more pissed off, I opened the gift, thinking it is only my 29th birthday – what could be so special I have to open now – did she get me a live animal or something? Opened up the card, which revealed something that made my heart skip a beat:

2 positive pregnancy test.

My wife and I were successful the first month we got serious about having kids and I was more than excited. I believe I jumped, kissed, cried, jumped more, and there may have been a little bit of a happy dance thrown in there. Once my excitement wore down, I apologized to my wife for being such an asshole. We were more than excited for our future.

After waiting what seemed like an eternity, we finally hit 8 weeks along and ready to take a peek of our beautiful little baby. I took the day off of work and my excitement was more than anything I have ever felt. Like a giddy kid on christmas. We went in to the room, my wife had some blood work done, an exam and we waited for the doctor to do the sonogram. As we got started with the sonogram, I was staring at the TV monitor, on the edge of my seat, waiting to see my beautiful little peanut which was suppose to be safe and warm and growing like a weed. I waited, and waited and waited – nothing. There was something there, but it was not a 8 week old beautiful little baby with a strong heart beat. The next words I heard, I will never get out of my head. “I am so sorry guys but I think you had a missed miscarriage”. Our pregnancy miscarried at 6 weeks. My heart sank to such a low that I couldn’t remember the last time I felt so down.

My wife – who is the strongest person I have ever met and this only established that fact further – laid there stunned. Doctor left and I ask my wife if she is OK – she said she is fine. We signed out and walked out down the hall and I had another moment I will never get out of my head. I put my arm around my wife to hold her and she looked up and had tears welling up in her eyes. We got home, had some lunch and my wife went to go meet a friend for a walk. I walked down stairs to my office, put my headphones and the song “don’t worry child” by swedish house mafia was on. It happen to be at the part that shouts:

My father said,
Don’t you worry, don’t you worry, child.
See heaven’s got a plan for you.

I put my hands in my face and completely lost it while that song was playing. I never got the chance to tell my baby it is going to be OK. Never had the chance to tell it not to worry. Never had the chance to protect it. Never had the chance…

Over the next few weeks, my wife and I went through a roller coaster of emotions. We both we in a very bad mindset, and we felt it triggered other things in our life.

This wasn’t suppose to happen to us. Why did we get the miscarriage? There are dead beats and crack addicts that have beautiful babies. We waited for the best time to get pregnant, making sure we could give a baby the best life possible. We planned, we executed our plan to our the fullest extent – even getting pregnant our very first month trying. And WE were the ones to lose it? WE were the ones who had to fight back tears every single time we talk about it. WE had to be the ones who had to go tell our future grandparents that they actually are not having their first grandchild like we told them. WHY US??

This took a mental toll on me. My mind wasn’t where it usually is. I have executed my plan of my life in such perfection, I couldn’t come to grips with the fact that this isn’t in my plan and felt like my world was dropping around me.

It also took a heavy toll on my wife. My wife is not a que sera sera (what will be will be) type of person. She goes through life making sure that every thing happens exactly within her control (one of the many reasons I love her). And there was absolutely NOTHING she could do about this. No test to predict it. No other measures she could have taken. She doesn’t drink alcohol. Doesn’t smoke. Doesn’t even drink caffeine. She is healthy. She took the right pre natal vitamins. And she was the one who had a miscarriage. I couldn’t even imagine that type of guilt that she had to try to deal with – and believe me – we dealt with the grief and the guilt.

As time went on, like everything else in life, the pain subsided and we got stronger. After many nights of talking, crying and deep conversation, we both realized that it was out of our control as much as we hated to admit that. There was NOTHING we could do. Nothing. And that still bugs us, but we have to accept that. That is life at its finest.

In life – do all you can. Be relentless about what you want, and don’t ever let anyone tell you that you CAN’T have something or CAN’T do something or you CAN’T be something. You can do anything with enough dedication, hustle and fearlessness. But know that there are still some factors that you cannot control.

Let it happen. Just let it be.

So many people (my wife and I included) want to control every single aspect of life. You can’t control everything. The only thing you can really control is what YOU do. How hard YOU work. and the preperation and thought that YOU give something. You can do everything in the world possible to do something the right way or the way according to your plan, and life may still find a way to shove you down and say “NO – NOT THIS TIME SORRY”.

Let it happen

Let life come and make it what it will of you. Yes – bad things will happen. Be sad & disappointed when they do. But only long enough to feel that human emotion. Then get up and push forward. And push and push and push until you get what you want. Life WILL get better. It may not be now. It may not be tomorrow. And it may actually get worse before it gets better. But know that whatever happens, you are strong enough to over come.

Thank you for letting me share this store with you. The miscarriage was one of the hardest things I ever went through, and I have been though some tough stuff. This experience tops them all. And if you read this when you are at the bottom of something and get the inspiration needed to know that you can over come it and it can get better, then pouring my heart out here is worth it (writing this actually provoked all the emotions yet again – not sure if I will ever lose that).

Again – thank you for letting me share.

P.S. I feel the need to add a note to those who land on this page searching for answers after a miscarriage. I can’t speak for women, but for the men who land here wanting something, here is my advice: hold your wife. Love her more than you ever think you can. As hard as it is for you, she had a connection with the baby that you will never experience – think how hard that is. I know people may think this isn’t right, but you need to be her rock. You need to be her strong hold. You need to make sure that life is going to be OK and that you will get by. She is looking to you for the strength to get through, give it to her. But grieve. Go out with your buddies and tell them your story. They won’t get it. They won’t understand what you are going through – but you need it. And know no matter what comes – whether you are successful on the next try or you struggle awhile longer – if you and your significant other tackle it head on hand in hand, there ain’t nothing that can shake you although life my try. Life may push you around, but get up more times that you get pushed down.

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That is how it works.

There is no way if you aim for a target, you will the target next to it.

You may not hit your target, but you are going to go in that general direction.

You cannot aim for something, and not get close.

You cannot aim. You won’t hit anything if you don’t aim for something.

You can miss your target. Not everyone is going to get a bulleye every time.

But you will go in that general direction.

Same is true in life; You get what you aim for.

If you aim for poverty, guess what you will get?

If you aim for a bad boss, guess what you will get?

If you aim for a poor relationship, guess what you will get?

If you aim for unsatisfactory health, guess what you will get?

There is no way around this. There is no way – absolutely no way – you will get anything other than what you are aiming for.

There is no way if you are aiming for poverty, you are getting wealth.

There is no way if you are aiming for a bad boss, you are going to enjoy your leadership.

There is no way if you aim for a poor relationship, you will get a fulfilling life with a loved one.

There is no way if you aim for unsatisfactory health, you are going to live in an abundance of health.

There just is no way!

“But Zach – I am not aiming for poverty, yet here I am”.

Yes – you are. “Here I am”, yes – there you are. If you think you are in poverty, that is what you have been aiming for. That is what is around you. That is how you are reaping in life what you are sowing.

Don’t like what you are aiming for? Change the aim. Flip the script. Use the law of polarity, find the opposite and aim for that.

Aim for wealth.

Aim for a better boss.

Aim for a stronger relationship.

Aim for better health.

Aim, and you will get there. You may not hit the target, but you are at least now aiming for something worthwhile in your life.

Now – when you aim, it is important to maintain focus. Focus on the target. Focus on where you want to be. Focus on the feelings of wealth. Focus on what a better boss looks like. Focus on how to maintain stronger relationships. Focus on the steps to better health. Focus on that aim.

The rest will follow. Pure and simple. You will hit what you aim for, or get damn close.

Z

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