The Feeling Is The Secret is a book by Neville Goddard, who I believe is one of the godfathers of law of attraction. What he teaches in The Feeling Is The Secret, and his other teachings, goes far beyond what The Secret does in modern age. Specifically, he touches on one main piece that I see SO MANY people miss when trying to manifest.
FEELING.
I bet you know that your thoughts become things, but what doesn’t an elephant appear when you think about an elephant?
Ok, sure – you could say there is a gestation period like all things in the world – including manifestation – so things do magically appear. If this was your answer – kudos to being a great student.
But there is another reason why some of the things you manifest don’t reveal themselves: you think it – but you don’t FEEL it.
Whatever you are looking to get for your future self, you have to be able to FEEL how that would feel NOW. Not later. Not when you get it. NOW.
You can see this in happiness in most people.
I will be happen when I get that promotion.
I will be happy when I find that perfect person.
I will be happy when I make $100,000 a year.
The main issue in that way of thinking is that those goals will never come to you, because you are putting your feeling in that future state. If you don’t know how to feel those feelings NOW, how do you expect to feel those feelings then?
And there is where most people fail with the law of attraction.
If you really want to succeed in your manifestations, you need to start FEELING the feelings that you would have when you receive it, but feel them now.
The Feeling Is The Secret
Getting the feeling down is probably the hardest part about manifestation because let’s face it: If you don’t know what it feels like to make 100k, how can you possibly know what it feels like to make 100k?
Or lose 50 lbs.
Or get that relationship of your dreams.
Or get that car of your dreams.
They do describe this in The Secret. There is a scene in the movie, where they are telling you to sit in your chair, and imagine that you are behind the wheel of your brand new sports car – and they have this whole scene about it. That is the feeling. Sure – you can imagine it, dream it, visualize it – but if you don’t have the FEELINGS behind it, you just won’t get there.
Because you have never been there, you truly don’t know what it feels like. And there lies the biggest problem. If you can’t feel it – you can’t manifest it.
So let’s pose the question: How do you get the feeling?
Simple – you get the feeling.
Yes – that is over simplistic but that truly is how you do it. In order to generate the feelings of getting what you want, you ave to start generating the feelings of what you want. Not when you get it – now.
I was 25 years young when I came across The Secret. Fresh out of college (yes – it took me awhile), working dead end job making maybe 30k a year. I wanted more – I knew I wanted more. I came from a poor upbringing and had a very poor money mindset. I wanted out of it – and knew that I could. But no matter what I did I could not get it. I did the visualizations, affirmations, meditations, and whatever other -ations I could throw at it. Nothing was changing. Until I changed.
I read this story about playing games with yourself in order to generate the feelings of what you are looking to do. In this case – financial abundance. So I decided it couldn’t hurt – it will only work, right? So I started putting myself in situations surround wealth.
- I subscribed to the Robb Report magazine.
- I took daily walks in the most affluent neighborhoods in San Diego (Rancho Santa Fe, Del Mar, Encinitas, etc).
- I would try on pants at a store, and put $20 in the pocket and put them back on the rack.
- I test drove a BMW 5 series.
- I took my car to the valet.
- I dropped $200 on a dinner with my girlfriend (now wife).
Every single one of these things scared the living sh*t out of me. I didn’t belong in those neighborhoods. I didn’t have extra money to just drop in pockets for someone else. I drove a 2000 Pontiac sunfire – who the f*ck valet thats? That $200 dinner – on a credit card because I didn’t have enough in the bank – hell the card only had a $500 limit!
Crazy? Yes – yes it was. Did I feel the feelings of abundance the first time? Absolutely not. In fact – it triggered more stress and feelings of lack that abundance.
But I kept at it. Because I believed this will work. And do you know what started happening?
- The price tag of those items in the Robb Report started to become normal. 100k for a watch? Well – it is a nice watch.
- I started to normalize seeing Porches and Mercedes and BMW and Range Rovers in those fancy neighborhoods. It was no longer ‘look at that fancy car’ but simply – look at that car.
- Parking in the valet became normal – I was actually pissed when a restaurant or hotel did NOT have valet. What – you want me to self park like a peasant?
- Date nights now consist of $200 meals easily, and freely.
2 years later, I pulled my first 100k year – nearly 4 years to the day of earning that 30k a year. But more important than the earning is building my abundance mindset. Every time I drop $200 on a dinner date with my wife, I give a little smile because it isn’t money being spent, it is good times and memories being made, well worth the money for dinner.
That story may feel like a boastful brag, but the key takeaway point is to generate the feelings. Yes – it will feel uncomfortable walking through ritzy neighborhoods when you are used to the slums. Yes – it will feel weird shopping for the new clothes you will wear when you lose that 50 lbs. Yes – it will feel odd testing driving that 911 GT3 Porsche.
But unless you know what it feels like in those moments – you will never know what it feels like in those moments. You will never be able to normalize a fancy neighborhood. You will never be able to see yourself 50 pounds lighter. You will never know what 346 ft lbs of torque really feels like off the line.
That is why you need to do whatever you can to start feeling the feelings of your end result. Feel FROM your goals, not when you get there.
If you can master the feeling of what you want – there literally is nothing stopping you from the life of your dreams.
So feel the feelings – and get the life that you want!
